Codependency Part II
Posted by John Denson
(03.15.07, 7:24 PM)
To paraphrase Jeff Foxworthy, "You are a codependent if..."
1. A guy writes a column on people-pleasing, emails it to you with a tongue-in-cheek note saying: "I really, really, really hope you like it! If you don't I'll try to change it." And you reply how much you like it, and that he is liked, too - even special - and that everything will be all right. (You promise!)
2. You read a column on codependency, tear it out, 'make' your mother read it, and afterward she says "I need to save this for your Aunt Helen."
3. You are a longtime, active member in a 12-step program that concentrates on not being codependent; a friend emails you a column on that very subject, with a tongue-in-cheek note saying, "I really, really, really hope you like it! If you don't I'll try to change it," and you do not know what to do...
4. You write a column on people-pleasing, resulting in praise, misunderstanding, laughter, resentment, and ultimately feeling misunderstood - yet again; so you go online and write a follow-up to the column on a blog, hoping to clarify everything so people will 'get it,' resulting in their further enlightenment and you, of course, feeling better...
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